Emotional Intelligence Workshop for Teenagers

Emotional Intelligence Workshop for Teenagers

                                                              Jeffrey’s Bay

16 June 2012

When Thomas Edison – inventor of the Light Bulb – was a boy, his teachers told him he was too stupid to learn anything.

Thomas Edison – best known for inventing the incandescent lightbulb in 1879.

The most significant form of Intelligence we can attain is Emotional Intelligence as this equips us to perform and succeed in all walks of life.

Our young people are losing out on this incredible learning as more and more time is given to “book learning” as schools and our society tend to attribute a person’s worthiness to their level of scholarly achievement.

Yet, time and time again, we hear of entrepreneurs and inventors who have achieved great wealth and success regardless of the formal learning.

Beethoven’s music teacher once said of him, “…as a composer, he is hopeless”.

Beethoven - famous composer


Teenager deserve to be fully equipped to manage life in all situations and this is possible when Emotional Intelligence is understood and practiced.

 This one day workshop will teach the valuable concepts and skills to open this awareness.

*Self Discipline    *Stress Management   *Communication    *Life Skills   *Leadership   *Self-Awareness & Self-Control  

Saturday 16 June, 2012  *  9:00 am to 4:00 pm

 R200 per person

Participants to bring their own lunch, refreshments and snacks.  Also a big cushion to sit on and clipboard or notebook and pen.

Please call   Joy 079 180 7639   for more information and booking.

This is such a valuable workshop and I am hoping that parents and teenagers will learn how these techniques can bring about positive changes that will inspire all relationships in the home, school and later in the business setting.

Many Excellent organizations, like VW, offer their employees this training.  It makes such a huge difference that it is seen as one of the essential courses business globally like to offer.

When we are able to move in the world from a core authenticity and responsibility, we are able to succeed in all endeavors.

I have researched this topic in depth as part of my studies with the University of Denver and presented workshops in Colorado, USA and South Africa to parents, educators and young people.

My motivation is to equip people to be the best that they can be, as this is the gift that impacts us all on a day to day basis.  

What will we be learning?

Self – Awareness

Self – Discipline

The Golden Moment – how to recognize it and use it to improve the outcome in all situations

How to control your own impulses

Regulate emotions

How to use the information in many settings

How to help others to be the best they can be, simply by being aware and better control oneself

How will you know you have begun the practice of emotional intelligence ?

  • You will be more tolerant.
  • You will take a Golden Moment.
  • You will stop blaming others.
  • You will appreciate people’s differences.
  • You will be a resource and a role model for others.
  • You will smile more to yourself and others.
  • You will start celebrating how far you have come.

Life is too precious to waste it.




evolve and VW Diversity Workshop

May 2009

Diversity Workshop with a magnificent group of participants.  Lots of experiential work and fun.

Diversity Workshop in Uitenhage


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evolve and VW Retreat Workshop

This all woman retreat was amazing.  The venue was delightful and we explored the process of creating an art piece with the idea of understanding the parallel with the level of creativity that is required from top leaders.

VW Uitenhage Women Leaders with Joy Truscott from evolve

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My Walk

The Beach of Kabeljous - Jeffreys Bay, South Africa

Walking on the beach I see the footsteps forming behind my path.  I look back and see that the line of steps is not in a straight line, even though I thought I was walking a direct route.  The pathway curves gently around the slight impressions of the sand mounds.  I was not even aware that I had been following the contours of the earth.

I walk now with a sense of purpose, placing each foot gently on the earth.  Where the sand is hard and unyielding the steps are barely visible and where the sand is soft, I see my mark pressed into the ground.  I understand that the world can be like the sand.  Soft and yielding at times, allowing me to leave an impression that is well formed and noticeable.  At other times, the earth is hard and unrelenting.  I have still travelled that way yet the mark I leave is known only to me, so slight is it.

The wind blows towards me and lifts my hair and my spirits, bringing in the smell of the ocean.  The breath of life.  I breathe it in through my nostrils, recharging my energy and my soul.  The wind dances on the sand and lifts the edges from the footprints, smoothing the indentations and sometimes covering them up entirely.  Still, I know that I walked that way.

I stop to see, to breathe, to rest a while.  My prints are behind me and not yet made ahead of me.  I see the expanse of clear sand washed beach and feel the tingle of anticipation realizing that the steps I am to take from this moment on are the ones I wish to make.  From this point of pause I can decide which direction I choose to walk; how firmly I intend to place my feet; how far I intend to take myself along the route.

All the while around me the air is changing; the wind the light, and the  scenery.  It might be the same place it was moments before, but now it looks different.  I am aware of the ever-changing, moving and shifting of the atmosphere.  As I walk, I adjust my jacket to shield me from the cooling air.  I adjust me.  The scene will always change.  How can I possibly think that it will stay the same?  I am not the same.  I make the changes in me that allow me to stay in the changing scene.  I move myself across the path, following the curves and avoiding the beach debris.  Before, I never considered how amazing this ability within me actually is.  Now I am aware and grateful.  So much goes on within me that I am unconscious to.

What an amazing, resilient being I am!

At times I look down and find treasures along the path.  Tiny, beautifully formed shells in vivid colours.  Fragile and perfect, until an idle step shatters them.  Some things will not survive on our walk through life.  We are bound to fracture something along the way.  Nature forgives by supplying abundance.  I give thanks for the abundance.  I forgive generously and earnestly.

I look up and see the expanse of sky.  Even the horizons are not the end.  There is more.  So much more.  I could feel small and unseen in the vastness, but I feel held and loved.  I am part of this wondrous creation and loved as much as the tiniest shell.  I see the purpose and the plan for even the smallest of creatures.  Each life interlocking in exquisite precision.  Without one, the cycle cannot sustain itself.  I long to have all of mankind see this picture; this connection.

The wind has blown patterns in the sand.  The bits of drift wood hold similar patterns.  The sand ploughs weave their hieroglyphic messages in the wet sand.  There is a pattern for all beings.  We are part of an intricate tapestry.  The thread that holds us all together is the breath of life.  We are encapsulated in the same pod of earth.  Sustained by the same light and Source.

The reflections of the mountains and the clouds shine in the water washed beach.  The earth reflects the sky.  The sky reflects the earth.  Heaven and Earth.  Ying and Yang, Good and Difficult.  Ease and Challenge.  It is all one.  The separation is in our seeing of it.

I turn to walk back, my footprints still showing along some of the journey.  I try to walk inside my step.  My haltering steps are laboured.  I cannot place my feet in the same mark without walking backwards and looking over my shoulder.  This is ridiculous and makes me laugh.  I stumble and fall.  In life why would I consider trying to retrace my old steps?  They do not fit me anymore.  I cannot walk them with the same sense of trust and ease.  I have to concentrate so much on each step in order to “get it right”, that I cannot enjoy the journey.  The unrealistic expectation could leave me disappointed and unfulfilled, if this was a serious walk-for-life.

Luckily for me, I can choose to even dance some of the way.  I step and leap, swirl and sway, leaving a myriad of different prints to show the movement of flow and ease.  My spirits are lifted and I feel as light as the seagulls that swoop overhead.  I have moved a great distance and haven’t even been aware of labour.  My dancing feet have freed me from the stilted, restricted, concentrated, self-imposed labouring walk.  I choose to dance more.

It is the end of the meander now and I look back over the path and feel a sense of light and satisfaction for giving myself this time of life.  I have moved over rocks, hard and soft sinking sand, and I have adjusted to each change and moved on.  The wind has blown and it has been hot at times.  Still, I danced and laughed and I will keep on dancing and laughing, even when my footprints can no longer be seen by others.  I know that I have participated regardless of the visible impression left behind.  That has made all the difference to me.

Inspired and written after a cleansing, healing walk on the beach outside my Mom and Dad’s home in JBay x Joy x



Your journey lies before you

Like the sand on clean washed beach

Place every step in awareness

For the possibilities are within your reach.


Joy Truscott


Starting again

Sometimes life seems to hit from an angle we do not expect and it might seem like the end of the world.  Stepping back for a moment will help to calm the emotional mind sufficiently to see the bigger picture.  It sounds so easy!  But it is not!  The emotional “hi-jack” we experience in trauma or anxiety is sometimes overwhelming.  You are not alone in this.

Our clever brains began developing because of the fear response.  The surges of stress hormones activated higher thinking so that we could learn to defend ourselves, fight back run away, or even, play dead.  Now we have the luxury of a brain that is far more developed than our ancient ancestors but the fear response and the body’s automatic response to any stress signal is still so primitive.   The fear that spurred our brains to develop is now our worst enemy.  We have become so very clever at defending ourselves, building and creating weapons of destruction and more subtle reactions like withdrawing from relationships and our lives in deep, dark holes of depression.

What to do?

The first step is to recognise that you are not alone.

Be kind to yourself and then you will be able to be kind to others.

Learn about yourself – self awareness is key.

Expand your emotional intelligent responses.

Practice Gratitude in everything.

Give and Receive with equal balance.

Know that you are Loved by Divineness.

And when your blogsite crashes in smoke,  just rebuild it.  New is wonderful when we can see it as freshness.  So welcome back to this site.  Watch this space for new postings and apologies to those who are disappointed to see that their paintings or photographs are not yet posted.  Hugs of thanks to Marcus and Anja for concern about the problem and for the assistance with all aspects of Blogsite support.  Marcus, you shall be abundantly rewarded for your business ethic.